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# 18-06-25 Kindness Language Patterns

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Kindness, like Compassion / Empathy, does feel mostly like tone / body language / action.

1. Gently
2. Giving
3. Appreciation / Gratefulness
   1. So happy that you’re here.
   2. I couldn’t help but notice [wonderful thing]
   3. It’s just a joy to be with you.
4. Compliment
   1. Specialness
      1. There is nothing like her
      2. This book is the book
      3. She is the one
      4. Nobody has your x
   2. Positive Description
      1. That was so wise
      2. You’re so decisive
   3. Countersignalling (This is the best)
      1. Because she has no idea how to sing (when her singing voice is incredible)
      2. Yeah, but it’s hard to deal with how bad the sex is (when it’s out of this world)
      3. I bet you wish you know how to (do thing that they’re clearly awesome at)
   4. Impact
      1. I will never be the same
      2. She scarred my soul
   5. Growth
      1. Rise
      2. Become who you are
         1. Grounded arrogance is become who you are 
            1. I rederived that fucking shit myself
            2. I rederived that shit
            3. I rederived it
   6. I love the way that you x
   7. How did you get that way? (Such FRAME)
      1. What created you?
      2. Questions that demonstrate an inability to comprehend their skill / greatness / glory, or at least a desire to understand
   8. I couldn’t help but notice [wonderful thing]
   9. Russell Conjugate of Admiration - Validation / Compliment

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*Source: [Original Google Doc](https://docs.google.com/document/d/11pj24SvyPkJpQSnShUpFA1mPMkUqLAPz_rygWFsZ8pg/edit?usp=drivesdk&sa=D&ust=1596495076847000&usg=AOvVaw2pi3f8fqNCQHV_nn7AUdgv)*